An Unexpected Surprise

Life is full of unexpected surprises. There are many opportunities when one can secretly wish for something exciting to happen – something out of the ordinary. The real surprise is when the wish unexpectedly comes true. I never believed that something like this could ever happen to me; such a thing that would make me stop and look back at the events in awe. I think you would agree that something as simple as being lost in the forest for less than ten minutes should have no influence on my life. If you do agree, that makes both of us wrong.

Throughout my childhood, I loved the wild. My family and I would always go for a walk in the downtown forest of Coote’s Paradise. There were many times I thought of what could happen if we were to lose our way from the trail and have to live off of the land until we found our way back to civilization. I thought it would be the greatest experience ever.

As my brothers and I grew older, we continued to go for these walks with our parents but the dreams of living in the forest I soon forgot. That’s when it happened. We decided to take a different path off the main trail. Before I knew it, the path had disappeared and no one in my family could tell where we had come from. It was so unexpected. It gave me a feeling of excitement that can’t be described. Everything in the forest seemed different. The trees were a deeper shade of green. The birds chirped in a different tone. Vines covered almost every inch of the ground. One part of me never wanted this moment to end. I felt completely free from the stress of my life outside of the woods. It was this moment that I realized that I would much rather stay here for the rest of my life than go back to society.

I think that another reason that I felt carefree was because my parents didn’t panic. They took the situation under control and headed for any open area in hopes to find a map (many of these maps were found throughout the grounds, telling you where you were). From my point of view, at the time, it seemed as if they were excited as I was about losing our way. In the end, it only took my parents ten minutes to find such a map and we were back on the trail in no time.

An experience like this made me think about my place in life. I’m the type who loves seeking out adventures. When we were lost, I realized that I had everything I would ever need with me – my family. They’ve always supported me in everything I do. This experience made me realize that families need to stick together; you don’t realize how much you need them until, for a moment, you think they’ll be the last people you see for the rest of your life.

It’s incredible how much a simple thing like being lost in a forest for ten minutes will affect your outlook on life. Things like not being able to find your way back to where you came from make you appreciate the little things in life. Looking back on the day, I realize now that it was fate. Moments like that are few and far between and should be taken as a lesson. Surprises like this were, and always will be, an unexpected gift for all.

People change.. and so do priorities..

So.. People have priorities..hmm. Definitely they have. Even I have. I have some people as priorities, for whom i am more like an option.. It hurts.. you know? Now suggestions would come as ” leave those people” ,”concentrate on yourself” and all such stuff… So lemme tell you.. Ruining my life is in my hands… I did that and now making up is also in my hands.. so I will have to do that no matter what. Anyways.. this was complicated.. mm… and rubbish too..!

Coming back to priorities. What are they? They are the conditions when one thing is regarded as more important than other thing. This happens with all of us most of the time. We prioritize our tasks, our ways, our likes and dislikes, people, and even relations..

At some point you start seeing the difference between what you really want, and what is your priority order… when you start listing people who you want in your life, people who you don’t want in your life and then people who you want in your life but only for your own convenience. The first two are fine…they know their standing. But the last category is the one that has actually no standing at all. They are the ones who would be used when needed.. and thrown when their use is over. When this happens, some people of third category run away..break free..wake up when they realize this… but some are emotional fools who think that sticking to you would be better…that the condition will change…that a time will come when they would be placed in first category. These people are hopelessly hopeful. They know they are risking their time n efforts but still they would do just anything to come in the first category. God bless them!

And those who keep a third category are the worst people in this world. They should rot in hell. Yes they should. They never think that they are literally playing with the emotions, feelings, respect that others have for them. M saying all this because for some people I come in the third category. And those people are the ones whom I cant ignore. I just cant. But they have perfected the art of dismissing it seems. They reject as if I am not fit to be used even once…after all that they have used me. Once..long time back I used to be in the first category and then I journeyed long enough landing myself in the third one. Sighhh..

Anyways times change.. and with it change people.. also changing their priorities. As I am no longer in the priority list.. I am lost. I don’t know the direction to which I head myself . Right now I want to be alone. I want to clear up my mind. And would take this resolution that i would never have third category people in my life. Either they would be in first or in second.

Last but not the least.. I hate Those people with 3rd category in their life. I hate them and they should die a terrible death. Yes!!!

Living up to Expectations

Living up to Expectations

How do you feel about yourself when you look at yourself in the mirror? Maybe you feel you are great, or maybe you do not feel so good about the person you see. One of the challenges many people face is wondering how they can possibly live up to all of the expectations they feel in life.

Families are great for placing expectations on people. Those expectations may involve a certain school, career, or specific activities or talents. When someone is not gifted in the same way other family members are, it can present a challenge. 

Friends can also place a great deal of pressure on us by their expectations. This can also be a good sign of whether or not a particular friendship is healthy or not. A good friendship will place expectations on us that will help us grow as people. A bad friendship will bring expectations that drag someone down.

We can also face certain expectations from our church or community. As citizens and people in a body of believers, we have certain responsibilities to those around us. If we want to thrive in our communities or in our church, we need to live up to those responsibilities and expectations. Of course, the most challenging expectations are those we place upon ourselves. 

All of these expectations can pile up on us and leave us frustrated and wondering if we can ever be successful in life. One of the greatest dangers we can face is giving in to despair and concluding that there is just no point in trying to be our best in life. Far too many people fall short of their potential because of these feelings of inadequacy. 

These feelings also rob people from the fellowship with God He wants to have with them. When someone feels he or she is not good enough, it is very easy to decide that God must not have any use for him or her. The consequences of giving up are far too severe to ignore. We need to know how to handle the expectations we feel in life.

We can handle the various expectations in life by understanding we are uniquely gifted. First Corinthians 12:12 helps us understand this principle. 'The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ” (NLT). 

Paul compared the human body to the body of Christ and made these points:

1. Each part of the body has a vital part to play. 
2. Every part of the body needs to function as intended for the body to be healthy.
3. Every part of the body needs to appreciate every other part of the body.

Though these principles seem obvious, they are very easy to overlook. In the body of Christ, some people just do not seem that important, when we do not bother to consider very closely. Yet these people often have exactly the gifts and abilities that are vitally important to the whole church. People who are good organizers, who are friendly, or who know how to fix things may not get many pats on the back, but it would not be a pleasant experience for the body of Christ to be without them. Because of this, we should welcome and encourage every believer we meet. We should never believe that we have nothing to offer.

Along with this recognition of our place in the body is the understanding that every skill we have is from the Lord. When we understand this, that we are blessed from God, then it is far easier to see that it is no longer just a matter of seeing how good we can be. All of our goodness comes from God, so we no longer have to worry about whether we are good enough to live up to what others want from us, or even if we are good enough to live up to our own expectations. 

Really, the most important thing for believers to remember is that we must yield to God's plan and God's purposes in our lives. By obeying Him, we will give ourselves the opportunity to use our gifts in a way that best pleases Him. 

This will also place us in the position to bless those with whom we come in contact. However, this is no longer a burden of trying to live up to the expectations of others. Rather, it is now the blessing of being who God has made us to be, so we can be the best blessing we can be. 

Hard Work a Road To Glory.

Hard work is the most important key to success. The achievements without hard work are impossible. An idle person can never gain anything if they sit and wait for the better opportunity to come. The person who is working hard is able to gain the success and happiness in life. Nothing is easy to be achieved in life without doing any hard work.

The Edison was working for 21 hours a day, and he sleeps only for 2 or 3 hours on the Laboratory tables with his books as his pillow. The prime minister of India late Pt. Nehru, he was working for 17 hours a day and seven days a week. There were no holidays in his calendar. The Mahatma Gandhi Ji worked ceaselessly day and night and he won freedom for his country. The hard work is a price that we pay for success in the life.

The constant vigilance and preparedness to work is the price we have to pay for the success in life. Work is a privilege and a pleasure, the idleness is a luxury that no one can afford. Man is born to work and prosper in life. He like steel shines in use and rusts in rest. The work is worship. The man of actions acts in the living present. There is no tomorrow for him. He makes the best of time. Life is full of strife. It is the action, activity of law of nature. A life of idleness is a life of shame and disgrace. Idle men are intruders on society. We are endowed with brain and limbs, which are meant to be properly exercised. The failure in life is very often due to idleness. The Industry is the key to success, Industry makes and idleness mars a nation.Greatness can be achieved by great labour only. What a man earns by the sweat of his brow gives him a greater degree of satisfaction than what he gets by a stroke of fortune. The man wishes to have many things in their life. These latter things acquired by hard toil are much than those gets by accident. When a man earns by dint of toil; he enjoys a pleasurable sensation which is equivalent to the joy of having won a victory. Of this pleasurable sensation, the man who has been born with a silver spoon in his mouth knows nothing. A self-made man is certainly happier and more esteemed than the man who owes his fortune to the accident of his birth.

Not poverty but the idealness is a great curse. If we waste time, time shall waste us. A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with the joy of success. Great men of the world were born in cottages but they died in palaces.

So, the hard work is very necessary and we should always work hard as hard work always pays off.

Journey.

As I am moving on with my life and doing things that must be done, I am finding that more and more people are tuning into what I have to say and how I am living my life. There are an ever increasing number of youths and people at higher stations in life who are taking my stands on different issues as the standard. This increasing fame and influence has given me a different perspective on life. While I used to be the center of my universe before, I have made the fundamental principles of life to be the center of my life. According to Einstein, Insanity is doing the same thing again and again but expecting different results. We must change some aspects of our lives if we are unhappy with the circumstances or people we are attracted to ourselves. If we want something we never had, we must become something that we never were. We’d be very careful about our speech if we knew the power of our words. By the idle words, some men have destroyed themselves and their life that would otherwise could have been one of great enjoyment and pleasure.
Disappointments have been the source of the greatest genius, inventions, creations and successes. Disappointments force us to think, look, listen and make radical changes in our lives. Tragedies bring into light the self within us that we never knew existed. Some of the disappointments in my life have made me realize the extent of strength I had within me that I never knew of. It’s the nature’s way of teaching us lessons necessary for us at the particular moment.
Nature is ever evolving and it’s always setting an example for us to move upward and onward continuously. However, some of us refuse to listen to the divine voice and stay amid our past or the ruins unless death of a friend or lover, end of a comfortable occupation or source of living or a great tragedy that forces us to change. As Napoleon Hill said, FIn every adversity, there lies a seed of equal or greater benefit.” So, do all the disappointments and failures. They come to guide us, teach us, and make us think about things we never would otherwise learn.
Tragedies change the course of our life. They bring into the light our faults and weaknesses which would otherwise remain undetected. Like Shakespeare said in Julius Caesar in the words of Brutus, We are underlings.” Everything good or bad that comes into our life is because of who we are. We attract not what we want but who we are and if we are to attract better people and circumstances, we must build those qualities in ourselves. We must become one with our ideal dreams and desires. Creator of the universe has made us in such a way that we must move on in our life or perish. All the experiences in our life good and bad come to teach us things that we must learn at the moment, apply the information and get on with what we must do. Each of us are here to perform the work of the creator. Finding your dreams and reaching your destination.
I welcome any of you who want to be a part of our vision irrespective of your nationality, caste, color, education or anything that’s keeping you in misery. I want you to dream with us and help create a world where life is an ever increasing journey of happiness. I bet you that there is a vacant spot in our team which you can fill, but nobody else can fill and there is a thing that you can do but nobody else can do. Orison Swett Marden says, When we are sure that we are on the right road there is no need to plan our journey too far ahead. No need to burden ourselves with doubts and fears as to the obstacles that may bar our progress. We cannot take more than one step at a time.
How to take immediate control of your Mental, emotional As Henley wrote, If we are the master of our fate and the captain of our soul.” This is true because we can control what happens to us next by controlling our words, thoughts and actions. Most people give away to their feelings and do things that they have to regret later. Most of the unhappiness in the world would have ended if people exercised their birthright of being able to control their mind. Getting our spiritual life in the right direction is of utmost importance if we are to have peace of mind and happiness throughout our life.
There is guidance within us to lead us to the right path throughout our life if we just listen to it. If our spiritual part of life is not tainted, the voice of the conscience within will be obvious. There is a wise saying, “Explore, Dream and Discover.” That’s what a successful life is really all about. It is a journey.

When I was growing up, every time I took my brother"s toy or called my brother names, my mother would grab me by the wrist and demanded that I offer an apology. What’s more, if the apology didn’t sound meaningful enough to her, I had to repeat it until my tone was genuine. An apology was the basic reaction to any mistake.

Now that I’m older, I see apologizing as more than just a household rule. My younger self didn’t understand the complexities of human pride and self-righteousness, but my older self does.

Now, I see family members refusing to talk to each other for years after an argument just because neither side wants to be the first to let go of their pride and “break down and apologize.” 

I think we’ve reached a day and age where showing emotional vulnerability can be viewed as a positive rather than a negative quality.

People are becoming more aware of ideas like empathy and sensitivity, and everywhere we are being encouraged to talk about our feelings, to seek help, and to connect with others. Gone are the days of keeping everything bottled up inside to suffer alone.

As we move forward in this time of self-knowledge and self-discovery, it’s vital to acquire the ability to recognize our own mistakes. NOBODY IS PERFECT, and we all will do something to hurt another person at some point in our lives. The difference, however, lies acknowledging that we have done something wrong.

This was hard for me to grasp, because I was taught that an apology should be an automatic response.

It took me a long time to realize what it meant to say “I’m sorry” from the heart. Apologizing just for the sake of apologizing is meaningless. We cannot genuinely apologize if we can’t admit to ourselves that we made a mistake.

Learning to apologize is the first and most important step in the healing process. Not only does it show the recipient that you acknowledge their right to feel hurt, but it opens the way to forgiveness.

It seems so silly, really. I mean, it’s only two tiny words. How can something so small be so powerful?

Well, there have been various scientific studies on the power of apologizing, which have demonstrated that when the victim receives an apology from his offender, he develops empathy toward that person, which later develops more quickly into forgiveness.

This is due to the fact that when we receive an apology, we feel that our offender recognizes our pain and is willing to help us heal.

Timing is an important aspect to keep in mind, as well, because sometimes the other person might not be ready to accept your apology. Sometimes we need to allow time to heal the wounds a little bit before we come forward to say “I’m sorry.”

An apology cannot undo what has been done, but it can help ease the pain and tension of the aftermath. It gives hope for rebuilding, and puts value on the relationship rather than the individual’s pride.

Sometimes people don’t even realize the hurt they are creating around them by failing to take responsibility for their actions. Maybe it’s you, maybe it’s someone you know, but everyone knows someone who has suffered from this at some time.

Now is the time to make a change.

Often times those two simple words are worth more than a lifetime of excuses and explanations.

Choose the path of humility. Choose the path of healing. Choose love above pride. Choose to apologize.

A Half Truth

MAGIC OF WRITING....

Sometimes there is just one step between you and happiness and it’s called – “open up about your feelings”. It happens that we simply can’t express the way we feel towards some person. Have you ever had such a tricky situation? Do you have it now? Well, don’t panic. 

We live in a digital era when letters may be considered too old-fashioned. However, there’s something romantic and unique about writing a paper letter, especially if you write it to someone special in your life. We’ve got some great examples of long love paragraphs for her which are perfect for this purpose.

Boys, don’t forget an old but true statement: “A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.” We guarantee that your girl will be in seventh heaven if you tell her about your deep love using short ‘I love You’for her. Take your relationship to a higher level of cuteness with nice couple paragraphs and good ‘why I love you’ paragraphs for girls.

Being away from each other, even if it’s temporary, is a harsh trial. In times like that, it is crucial to keep in touch. Everyday phone calls, cute text messages and either short or really long emails are exactly what we are talking about. As for the last, meaningful ‘I miss you’won’t let your better half forget that you think about her every day.

To cut it short, just remember that it is always the right time to write to your girlfriend or wife about your feelings and nothing works better for this than a romantic paragraph for her sent with love.

Sorrow and Joy of Life

Life, to most of us, is a succession of sorrows.

Almost all religions have a similar prescription. The Christian tells us not to think much of our material possessions, for even if we lose the kingdom of the earth, we will gain the kingdom of Heaven. Islam tells of the gates of Paradise, with all the joys, which we were denied on earth, will open wide to welcome us to eternal happiness.

The Hindus want us to perform our duties without attachment and without any expectation, and one day we will be released from the bondage of worldly life. The Buddhist points to the Eightfold Path that will help us attain Nirvana, which means extinction of all births, rebirth, and desires.

Really few want to escape the sorrows of life by getting rid of what we believe to be the very sources of joy. But I would say rather that the remedy has proved impracticable, since inspite of preaching it for thousand of years, it has not brought man any nearer to the final conquest of sorrows.

The philosopher may deny life but poet Tagore is there to sing of the beauty and blessedness of life. His message comes to us refreshingly, — "Salvation through renunciation, — no, that is not for me." Life is very sweet, brother; who would wish to die? As a matter of fact, if life had not its plentiful store of joys, man would have given up the effort to live as a hopeless business. Our joys, indeed, more than outweigh the sorrows that the pessimists exaggerate. We prefer to be with the poets rather than with the pessimists and weeping philosophers. Every moment of our existence has something to bring us, some prospect of joy, some chance of happiness, some fulfillment of our hopes. Why should we speak of sorrows more than of joys?There is a saying that "Happiness is an occasional episode (in life) in an otherwise drama of pain." Above all, we must go all out, with courage and faith, to meet challenge of circumstances — "to have faith in God, keeping our powder dry." Let us learn the great lesson — "joy cannot come unless it be earned." Sorrow, therefore, is the price that we have to pay in order to earn happiness. 

Of course, in the last analysis, most of our sufferings are due to the social conditions in which we live, where the interests of the majority are sacrificed for the few. Had there been equitable distribution of national wealth, three-fourths of the ills of life, poverty and want, non-education and unemployment, starvation and disease would have been eliminated. Hence, the crying need of the society is the social justice

True Friendship

      TRUE FRIENDSHIP 

Our friends mean so much to us. When we are with our friends we have a good time. When we want to share a joke it is our friends whom we choose. When we want to enjoy a holiday we do it best with our friends. When we want to unwind after a hard day’s work it is with our friends.

It is a true friend who can turn a grey day into a bright and beautiful one. A real friend is like spring time. Just as spring can bring blooming flowers, singing birds and dancing butterflies, our friends can make us have broad smiles, cheerful hearts and chirpy tunes to hum.

It is love that friends share generously. And that is what enables them to also share their miseries, troubles and pains as also joys, pleasures and successes. Your true friend wants to see you happy just as you always wish your friend to be joyful. And just as you become miserable if failure or sorrow come your friend’s way, your friend is left feeling terrible should trouble or misery come your way.

Friendship is a bond between two hearts. Hence it stays intact; rather, it grows from strength to strength. This is what gives true friends the capacity to stay together through thick and thin with affection and with joy.

Friends treasure and cherish their relationship. For the sake of your true friend you would be willing to go not just the extra mile, but much more. True friendship is a very powerful bond. Even if frictions happen to come between you and your friend they are meaningless and have no weight, and are as transient as a whiff of air. It is the power of love that makes for a true friendship. The bond of true friendship is unbreakable. No tempest is too much for true friends.

Between two friends there is nothing to hide. True friends can be absolutely frank with each other, ready to pour their heart out to the other. In a friendship between two close and dear friends, the love for each other is limitless and undying. And so one could share a relationship of true friendship with one’s parent or sibling or then one’s spouse. In fact God is often one’s real friend. True friendship stands the test of time. When all else will desert, a true friend will still be around.

Miss you Friends and that Golden days & time that we spend together.{#anupam,#tanu,#shreya,#saurav,#all old friends.......}

 SIMPLE LIVING HIGH THINKING.. 

This proverb advises human beings to limit their wants and desires as there is no end to them. If we run in pursuit of every desire of ours we shall never be satisfied as these keep growing on and on.

We all agree that most of the things we want are not really for ourselves. We want them to impress our neighbours, friends and relatives. This kind of life can never be fulfilling or pleasurable. This is because we are not born to please or impress others and we can never even do so. Whatever we do people only look for opportunities to find flaws in us and this leaves us all the more dissatisfied. We try to earn more and more, reach at a high position in the company, increase our social circle and shop for expensive clothes and household items – what for? All this is done to establish a good social standing.

Now, this is not to say that there is something wrong with being ambitious and making a good living. All this might as well bring us satisfaction at some level but it also takes away a lot from us. However, in the quest of making it big professionally and earning more and more to quench the undying desires people spend a lot of time at work and neglect their parents, spouse and kids. This distances them from the family and disturbs their personal relationships and all this only leads to stress.

If we lower our materialistic wants and stick to our needs, we shall be able to create a balance between our personal and professional life. This way we shall be able to spend more time with our family where the true joy lies. We shall also have enough time for ourselves, to look within and find out our true purpose of life.

    Young Love? Fake Love.

You know, I really hate it when people say that teenagers can’t fall in love. 

It’s absolutely ridiculous for a (questionably) able-minded adult to feel at teenage love. I mean, really? Is there some point in life when suddenly you forget what it once was to be young? “*POOF*, you’re an adult! Congratulations, you miraculously have a newer, more mature and all-knowing view on life! Now go and tell all those little youngsters what life is REALLY about, and how they have no idea what’s going on!”

Uhm, no. For some strange reason, I don’t think that’s what happens.

See, I think it happens like this: as teenagers – and yes, I include myself in this group whole-heartedly – we believe that we know everything. Once we’ve experienced something once, suddenly we know anything and everything that could possibly relate to this subject, and anything that could remotely relate to those subjects. We think we know things that we’ve seen in movies, read in books, heard about on Facebook. Yes, we are a very curious – and yes, we do deserved to be smacked upside the head every once and a while. We ARE young; we are going to make mistakes. (Doesn’t everyone?) But just because we don’t know absolutely everything about people and how things work doesn’t mean we can’t learn. It doesn’t mean we can’t understand. It doesn’t mean we can’t have true, real knowledge, experience, and emotions about things. 

This is where I think most adults get lost. “What? Teenagers knowing what they are talking about? There isn’t a certain age that you reach that suddenly allows you to truly feel and experience and understand. There isn’t a magic word. There isn’t some secret ritual. Call me crazy, but last time I checked it’s called GROWING UP. We are in the stage where we aren’t kids anymore, but we aren’t adults. We’re too young to understand, but not to old to do so. Too dumb to learn, too wild to attempt to teach. It’s ridiculous the restraints put on us as teenagers; do you adults remember your “rebellious” stage when you were young? When everything your parents said was bull, and everyone was out to get you because you were so uncomfortable in your own skin? That’s where we are now. That’s where you all are making it so much more difficult for us to live, where we are stunted in our growth because faith in us is a rare gift to find.

Anyway – focus, back to my original point. Love. This goes right along with the rest of what I’ve said exactly – there is no age where falling in love is appropriate, or right, or even sane. Falling in love isn’t a rational thing; when it’s real, it’s completely psychotic. (Did you know in the first stages of love – that stage when you can’t stop thinking about them, the honeymoon stage – that a scan of your brain would look eerily similar to that of a clinically insane person? Food for thought.) When you truly love a person, it changes you forever. For good or bad, that’s really up to you – but they’ll change you, alright. No stopping that, no matter how old you are. And yet – though the effects of love are the same, no matter your age – older people seem to think that teenagers can’t fall in love. Period. “You’re too young! You have no idea what love is!” 

So…when exactly are we supposed to figure it out? Is there a magic birthday that we hit that suddenly gives us insight to what love is? 

I don’t THINK so. (Guess I can’t be positive on that one, can I?)

The way I see it, love isn’t something that can be taught. You can explain and describe to your heart’s content; you’re not going to be able to explain it any better than I could. Until you’ve experienced it yourself, there is no damn way you’re going to be able to understand. It’s like trying to explain to a blind person what the color green is – it’s not possible. It’s just not. And yet, despite this conundrum, I’m sure there are plenty of teenagers who could better describe what love truly is than adults. 

Now, a lot of people - *adults, excuse me – will think this whole spiel was a waste of time. It didn’t change your outlook, didn’t affect you at all – I’m just another love struck teenager. (For your information, I am currently not love struck as I am writing this. Not even heart broken. Though I have been in both places, one a fair time longer than the other. Can you guess which? I’ll give you a hint: it starts with a “I’m” and ends with a “still scared to commit to a guy in case he tramples all over me like the last one”.) And I’ll admit, there are flaws to my argument; teenagers are more prone to faking love than adults. (However, faking love does happen quite a bit in the adult race as well. Quite a bit more than most would like to admit.) But, flawed or not, I unreservedly believe in love at any age – and I think you would do well to do the same. 

But then again, I’m just a teenager. What do I know, right?

Love-The General Agenda

Love makes us happy forever provided it should not be practiced with selfish motive.

Love is a noble feeling which cannot be expressed in simple words such as- parent’s divine love towards their children, teacher’s love for their students etc.The power of love can create miracles. Love can create unity among nations and its citizens. Love is the most beautiful feeling in the world. Love has given different meaning by different people depending upon how they have experienced this wonderful feeling.

Love is unconditional and selfless. Love knows no boundaries. Love may happen among sisters, brothers, friends, siblings, parents, neighbors, pet, relatives, partners etc. You are always available for the person whom you love.

Love makes you to do the best things for your loved ones to make them feel happy & proud about themselves. When you love someone you accept their weakness too and love them for whatever they are. Love has no specific meaning. Love is the most important aspect of an individual’s life. Love also carries harsh feelings sometimes but still it is considered as one of the best feeling in the world. Lack of love in relationships may result in aggression, quarrels, war, divorce among husband and wife.

Love has multiple meanings. Love can also happen with an object. For instance, many people love their cars, bikes, laptops, I-pods and other valuable objects. Every individual express his/ her love in his/ her own unique way. Some express love through their actions while some show it through actions. Love is treasured forever.

Teenagers can’t stop themselves from falling in love. They can’t stop themselves from thinking about the person to whom they are attracted to. Falling in love is easy because it starts when you are attracted towards someone. But living it up is difficult because love involves commitments and sacrifices too. Love is not limited to just a feeling, but it is a way to treat others with care, respect and affection. Love is followed by tenderness, passion and devotion.

So trust the people who love you. Be happy with them. Give something to them in return. Make them feel happy too. Care for them. Love them back. Protect them if required.

Being Alone

Once again I am lying here on my bed staring aimlessly up at the ceiling. My ears are focused on the fan  hum as they have been so many nights before. The covers are pulled tightly to my throat, cloaking my body as an armor. I wonder to myself why this is all of a sudden my life. Nobody ever told me, or at least I never thought living could be so difficult.

It seems like only yesterday that I was growing up at home, playing, smiling, and basking in the love and adoration of my family and friends. I was always laughing, joking, and enjoying every detail of life. It seems there were no bad days back then.

Sometimes I recall and dwell upon the ignorant happiness that youth dictated.

I wish that I had seized my childhood memories more carefully instead of letting them flow from my mind like a thief in the night. Suddenly, I realize and am awaken to the fact that I am twenty years old, alone and lonely. Sometimes I am overcome and fear the coming of tomorrow. “Is this all there is?” I quietly ask myself.

I ask myself why this lifestyle has befallen me. Am I not a good person? Have I wronged someone? Have I maybe hurt someone and this is my punishment? Never in all my life have I felt like this. The harder I try to answer my questions, the more further away the answer seems to run and hide from me, like children playing catch me if you can, or hide and go seek. This lifestyle is not of my liking or my choosing.

In the not too distant past, my life was that of a perfect picture, a flawless work of art. There was the family, the house, and the entire fulfillment and responsibility of it all. Then like a lightning flash one cold day in December it disappeared, disintegrating before my very eyes. A shattered life now replaces what was once a promising future for all concerned. Sorting out, picking up and piecemealing a new life together best describes my newfound existence. 

Being defeated and broken by this test of life is not an option I consider or give place to. There is a reason we as human beings face different trials in our lives. Quite possibly there is a master plan for all of us. We all face situations, circumstances, and events in our lives that are not to our liking, choosing, or understanding. In my situation, I am not to question why…. I am but to do or die. No, I didn’t coin that phrase. No applause please. I heard that phrase somewhere. It speaks volumes to be such a short order of words.

There are many people I have found from all walks of life that share my circumstances; both men, women, young, and old alike. I do find some peace and comfort in knowing that I am not alone or indifferent in my struggle. Others do share the same burden.

"But You Can Choose Your Friend"

I was reminded of the old saying that "you cannot choose your family but you can choose your friends." What reminded me of the old saying was the fact that we spent few days with old friends. All of us were impressed and pleased by how comfortable and relaxed we felt. There was no need to pretend, compete, or even be careful about our behavior with one another. We discussed personal, family and health problems in addition to reminiscing about "old times." The warmth and closeness we experienced is what one expects to have when family members re-unite. There are people who are fortunate enough to have this type of closeness with family. However, for the rest of us, family experiences are far from pleasant.

Family relationships are often fraught with long and bitter histories made up of resentments, jealousies, rivalries, secretes and unresolved issues, none of which ever is discussed. With this background of experience, many people visit family as part of a sense of obligation rather than pleasure. Whether the length of the visit is a day, week or month, people come away with a renewed sense of anger and resentment.

But, Old Friends?

It should be needless to remind everyone that the same types of dynamics that afflict family members can afflict friendships.

However, friendships that have been for a long time have also weathered the "slings and arrows of misguided fortune." Old friendships are "tried and true" and that is what makes them special. Because friendships are not bound by blood but they last because people choose to maintain those relationships. In other words, there are no obligations between friends of the type and variety that cause relatives to deal with each other whether they want to or not. Therefore, friendship relationships are relaxed, joking, and wonderfully informal rather than being driven by guilt and moral commitment.

Therefore, I want to thank my old friends for spending a week with me at their house while we were vacationing. What a delicious experience; to be on vacation and with old friends at the very same time.

Friendship A Boon or a Curse

Friendship is that purest form of relationship which exists between every nest relationship. In fact all the relationships of the world begin with the purest form of friendship but when talking about a friend they have a special place in your life. It's indeed a matter of luck to have a truthful friend! True friendship is the unique gift that we get from God and it makes life a beautiful celebration. It is our friends who make life a pleasurable journey by making it an easier and joyous one. They will never ever laugh at any of your mistakes while they will suggest you on making improvements on the same.

Even though your friend is involved in a schedule busy enough to get time for anything, they will find time for their friends to help them in their difficult times. Friendship is one precious possession which can neither be bought nor be sold. The essence of friendship germinates from the heart and it can be ended the day it starts depending on the materialistic possessions. It is to be noted that true friends are the actual happiness of our life.

Real friend are the one who will never forget their friends and will keep supporting no matter what. Each one of us gets problems in our lives every now and then and we need people around to support us emotionally and morally in the times of distress. In this regard our friends are the people who will keep guiding you.

We all know that real friendship is a very valuable gift for all of us. We human beings are social animals and we cannot live our life alone and we need people around with whom we can talk our insecurities elaborately so as to lead to a useful solution. It's a fact that we get attracted towards people who we need more in our live and who listen to what we have to with us to share. Friendship is one such relationship where the highest level of trust and intimacy exits. It is the most comfortable zone where we feel a sense of being in the shade of love.

Friendship can be between any two people who can belong to any age, caste, creed, gender and any social status. God is the one who makes us lucky enough to get a couple of true friends and makes our life a celebration. All of us need the company of some friends who can be with them for the whole life and creating cheerfulness in their lives. One of the best examples of friendship is that of the story of Krishna and Sudama. They were the best epitome of friendship.

There are many people out there who make friends looking at the social status and the amount of money they have. People who think like that can never be real friends and they will never ever support you in any phase of life. They are the people who will leave their friends in bad times. So, we should judiciously choose friends in our life so that there isn't any point of being disillusioned.

A Letter To The Mom Who Left Far Too Soon.....

Dear Mother,

As I get older, my memories are starting to fade. I try to cling to every last bit of memory that I have of you. There are certain memories that have stuck well in my brain, and I probably will never forget them, at least I hope I don't. I remember your smile and your laugh. I can still remember how your voice sounded. I never want to forget that. I catch myself closing my eyes to try to remember it, playing your voice over and over in my head so that I can ingrain it in my memory.

I always thought you were invincible, incapable of leaving me. You were so young, and it caught us all by surprise. You were supposed to grow old, die of old age. You were not supposed to be taken away so soon. You were supposed to see me graduate high school and college, get married to the love my life, be there when my kids are born, and never ever leave.

My heart was broken when I heard the news. I don't think I had experienced a pain to that level in my entire life. At first, I was in denial, numb to the thought that you were gone. It wasn't until Thanksgiving, then I realized you weren't coming back. Holidays are not the same anymore. In fact, I almost avoid them. They don't have that happy cheer in the air like they did when you were there. There is a sadness that hangs in the air because we are all thinking silently how we wished you were there. I hope when I am older and have kids that some of that holiday spirit comes back.

You know what broke my heart the most though? It was seeing your child, my parent, cry uncontrollably. I watched them lose their mom, and I saw the pain that it caused. It scared me, Mom, because I don't ever want to lose them like how they lost you. I can't imagine a day without my mom or dad. I still see the pain that it causes and how it doesn't go away. There are good days and there are bad days. I always get upset when I see how close people are to their parents and that they get to see them all the time. I hope they realize how lucky they are and that they never take it for granted. I wish I could have seen you more so that I could have more memories to remember you by.

I know though that you are watching over me. That is where I find comfort in the loss. I know that one day I will get to see you again, and I can't wait for it. I hope I have made you proud. I hope that all that I have accomplished and will accomplish makes you smile.

I want to say thank you for raising your child to be the best parent ever because they will one day be the best parents ever. Just like you.

IMPORTANCE OF FAILURE.

There comes that moment in all of our loves when we feel like completely giving up, when nothing seems to go the way we planned, and the future looks bleak at best. In times like these, we cannot help but feel that there cannot reason to keep on trying; after all, what is the point in working on something when you know it is going to be futile in the end? But to be fair, it is never a good idea to just give up, not until you have given of your best into the situation.

• There is nothing to say that success will come to you at the very first attempt. Sometimes, you have to struggle for years before you can reach the place you aimed for. There will be multiple setbacks on the way, and if you give up every time you encounter a roadblock, it will be impossible to ever achieve anything. So, you must keep trying in order to make it in the end, and the taste of success will be even sweeter.
• If you give up after your first failure, you will know what you did wrong, but you will never learn the right way to do things. Every time you make a mistake and fail to achieve your goal, you will know one more thing that should not be done. This way, by process of elimination alone, you will keep getting closer to your goal, and finally arrive at a foolproof way to get things done.
• f you give up on your goal after a single try, or without trying at all, you will never know the right way of doing things. Failures tell us that we are doing something wrong, forcing us to change track and learn new things in the process. We have to stay updated if we are to hang on to our dreams, because there is no point in doing the same thing and repeating our mistakes.
• When we are used to working hard to succeed, we tend to become self confident and dependent on ourselves. We do not need to rely on anyone else to do the job for us, because we are quite certain that we are ourselves quote capable of handling it on our own. Since we don’t give up on our dreams, we have no regrets, and no one needs to help us out along the way.

The Role of Mothers

The word mother itself is symbolic to God. The day you conceived and then open your eyes for the first time in this world, the one person that poured all the love and affection she holds in her heart is the mother.

What she does for a child since the day he arrives can’t be done by anyone else. Nurturing to the best, loving without any condition, taking care, teaching how to walk, talk and telling the basics of life since the childhood are some of the roles that can’t be performed well by anyone other than a mother.

A mother undoubtedly plays the most vital role in our overall development. Her importance and significance in our life are superlative to all other possessions. No matter how much you succeed the one working and praying behind the scene for you is always a mother.

Promising you to give the best things possible at her end, she is the one to be thanked for making you what you are today. Her unconditional love and devotion are incomparable to everything else in this world. And when it comes to dedicate one day in the year just to her, it should be made as special as she is in our lives. But those are special who have mother.The bond between a mother and a child can be best relished on the occasion of Mother s' Day.

The General Agenda 'Frustration'

In-spite of the amenities of civilization and around development in every sphere of human life, life is not and had never been a bed of roses.

In a remarkably complex and complicated world of today, the organism is constantly subjected to a rich varieties of needs and demands from the moment of birth.

Frustration is a key concept of both academic and clinical psychology. As a matter of fact, everybody is subjected to some amount of frustration during his life time. Frustration is not some thing which occurs rarely and it should never be considered a sign of misfortune. Life comprises a series of needs and activities directed towards meeting them.

A man has lost his way in the woods and the water supply runs out. He is feeling hungry. But there is no food to eat and satisfy his hunger and so he is frustrated. As his hunger becomes acute and is intensified, the degree of frustration increases and the need becomes stronger and stronger, but there is no means to satisfy the need.

The most common example of frustration is when person who fails to marry his sweet heart or when a sex pervert is obstructed while going to rape a small girl, experiences severe frustration due to the inability to reach the goal or need because of some interference or obstruction.

A baby’s ball has gone over the garden of a neighbor and is out of reach of the baby. The fence acts as a barrier which frustrates the baby’s effort to get back the possession of the ball. Thus, by and large, when the goal oriented behaviour suffers interference or blocking it leads to frustration. In other words, when satisfaction of an existing need is blocked or obstructed or interfered with, there is frustration.

The Obstacle in our Path

There once was a very wealthy and curious king. This king had a huge boulder placed in the middle of a road. Then he hid nearby to see if anyone would try to remove the gigantic rock from the road.

The first people to pass by were some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers. Rather than moving it, they simply walked around it. A few loudly blamed the King for not maintaining the roads. Not one of them tried to move the boulder.

Finally, a peasant came along. His arms were full of vegetables. When he got near the boulder, rather than simply walking around it as the others had, the peasant put down his load and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. It took a lot of effort but he finally succeeded.

The peasant gathered up his load and was ready to go on his way when he say a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The peasant opened the purse. The purse was stuffed full of gold coins and a note from the king. The king’s note said the purse’s gold was a reward for moving the boulder from the road.

The king showed the peasant what many of us never understand: every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

MORAL IS YOU HAVE TO TRY AND TRY AND NEVER GIVE UP.......

The Pillars of Success : Failure

Man is destined to face challenges in life. Life is not a bed of roses. Obstacles and difficulties are bound to come in the way.All desire for success. However, everybody doesn’t succeed in achieving his goals. Failures are a part of our lives. But one who keeps on striving is crowned with success, eventually.
Success is the result of hard work, firm determination and dedication. Sometimes, the attempt proves to be a failure. But failure is a natural phenomenon. It carries a treasure of invaluable experience. Success and failure are two facets of the same coin.
Every failure is a stepping stone to success. Failure teaches us a lot. It reveals our weakness that must be overcome. It informs us about the problem areas in our work. It guides and inspires us to put in more effort. It reveals the weakness of our planning. It gives us strength to act more decisively. We come to know about our limitations. It gives us a guideline for future course of action. Failure, thus prepares a person to go for the next endeavor with better chance of success.
A man who has not tasted failure doesn’t know of success. He becomes too self assured and easy going. Most great men achieved success only after a long battle with failures. They learnt from their failures.
One who has met with failure needn’t invest same amount of labor as invested in one’s maiden attempt. He is merely required to analyze the ways he has adopted. Success without failure is seldom possible. Failure shouldn’t stop us living life well. It is always possible to live your best life despite the odds and hardship.  Living well is the revenge to the failure.
Fortunes favors the brave. And the brave is one who gets ahead, overcomes his failures and achieves his goal. We should keep our priorities before us, concentrate on them fully, do the consistent efforts and then we will see that every thing is falling on its right place. Failures, thus, act as a ray of hope. In cases of failures, one should not be scared of the comments and criticism of the people.